Can Matchmaking Help Love to Blossom in the Countryside?
When thinking about searching for a new partner, first you need to be clear whether you are looking for just casual encounters or if you are ready for a more meaningful connection with someone that is likely to become a more lasting and fulfilling relationship. Ensuring you have thought about and understand what you are really looking for in a future relationship makes sense, as with this knowledge, you can then best decide on the best course of action to help achieve your end goal.
You may have watched one of the hit Christmas films that tends to be on TV at this time of year, ‘The Holiday’, where the beautiful girl heads down a lonely, snow-covered track deep in the countryside, to stay in an impossibly romantic cottage, just to find a seriously handsome man appear on the doorstep. Before she can catch her breath, they are sharing a romantic meal together and love is in the air. Sadly, we know that to accept this as being at all likely to happen to us requires a major suspension of belief. It’s far more likely we will have a quiet night in again at home, than finding potential hot dates will come knocking on our door. The reality is that, particularly when living in the countryside, we need to be proactive and to take steps to put ourselves out there, for there to be a realistic chance of finding a new partner.
There are of course, some ways to ‘hook up’ with others, or to simply have a brief encounter, and such meetings might be achieved through online dating apps and online dating websites, particularly if you are not being very discriminating and prepared to welcome any and all advances. However, this route may not be the best way to go if you were hoping for a meaningful and lasting relationship; a deep connection with someone you have things in common with and who can become central to your life. And when you live in the countryside, whether it’s casual connections or more meaningful and lasting ones, these can be much harder to find, due to the lack of social spaces close by and there being far fewer opportunities to come across new people than in the more densely populated urban areas.
A Better Alternative to Online Dating to Spark Rural Romance
If the countryside is where you belong and you have no desire to move to a busy and bustling city, opportunities to meet others of the opposite sex are then in very short supply. You’ll know there are not that many social events happening for singles around your age close to home either, and the few that do occur tend to have the same old faces who will go along. So, what can you do to put yourself out there and meet someone new who is worth meeting?
Whilst online dating may have worked for some lucky ones, this way of looking for a compatible partner can be very off putting, with many profiles not being at all an honest reflection of the person they are supposed to be and some people using these dating platforms who are not single or have no real intention of finding a new partner. Online dating can waste our time and for some, they can lead to real heartache, when this way of connecting with new people is increasingly being used by romance fraudsters or those who are only interested in insincere or fleeting connections. If you’ve tried the online dating platforms, you are still single and hoping for a real relationship with someone who you’ll find compatible, you might now want to consider using the services of a professional matchmaker and a traditional dating agency.
Have you ever wondered if there are traditional matchmaking agencies around these days, and if any are aimed specifically at rural people? Well, traditional dating agencies are still available, and they have seen a real resurgence in more recent years as more single people than ever who want a meaningful and lasting relationship, have despaired of the online dating websites and dating apps, and look for a better alternative. Matchmaking agencies may also specialise in certain groups, such as Country Partners, that caters for rural people and those who enjoy country life and rural pastimes.
How Does Country Partners’ Matchmaking Service Work?
The people who approach professional matchmakers are typically more serious about finding a partner than those who may be using online dating. The clients of matchmakers recognise they need to find someone who will fit well with their own lifestyle and particularly for those who are living in the countryside, it has become apparent that waiting to meet someone suitable through our day-to-day life is simply not going to present enough opportunities.
In contrast to typical online dating scenarios, with a traditional dating agency you will have an experienced matchmaker looking out for you and having access to other like-minded, genuine singles who will have things in common with you. Having a matchmaker there to oil the wheels and on hand for practical help with advice and support, such as if you are struggling with reading the signs on those early conversations and first dates, or have any questions about today’s dating scene, is an added bonus. We don’t always feel comfortable with asking friends or family about private aspects of our love life, so having access to a personal matchmaker who is a professional dating expert, to speak to in complete confidence, can be very helpful. A matchmaker can become like a confidential friend on your dating journey, helping you to avoid making those miss-steps which can otherwise de-rail a very promising connection. Matchmakers are in the business of helping love happen. They work every day with clients who often lead busy lives, but still recognise the importance of finding a loving and lasting relationship. If that sounds like you, perhaps you should speak to a matchmaker soon, to see if they could be your best option in your search for a partner.
When meeting new people without going through others we trust and who already know the person well, there will always be a greater degree of uncertainty, leaving us sometimes doubting that what someone is telling us about themselves, may not be true. They might just be telling us what they think we want to hear or may even have unscrupulous reasons to be less than honest about themselves. Of course, no one will really know every aspect of someone else, but if meeting others through a matchmaker rather than through an online dating site, this could give you some additional safeguards. A professional matchmaker should do some vetting of candidates for you, at least to ensure those you will be introduced to are really who they say they are. If you are thinking of taking your search for a new partner to a professional matchmaker to work on your behalf, it is worth asking first about the sort of checks they run on prospective partners, to make sure the service they provide includes some level of checks and assurances.
There are some groups and clubs in the countryside which you might try joining to meet new people. There may be local bell ringers looking for beginners, a local choir, or a bridge club or local history group in the area — or perhaps you could ask in the village newsletter, if others would like to join a local running group you might start up for a Saturday morning fun run? Remain open to new ideas about all sorts of ways in which you might meet other people to broaden your connections.
The more steps you take the greater your chances of success will be in finding someone for a meaningful relationship, but maybe working with a matchmaker will be your best route to finding love when living in the countryside.
If you’re based in a rural location, or simply love the countryside as much as we do and want to take that next step in your journey, then contact Country Partners today. Our friendly dating team would love to run you through how we work in more detail, and provide more information on the personal matchmaking services that we provide.